Friends matter. Yogananda said … You cannot find friendship everywhere. We are at times deluded by outer appearances. As we clear our consciousness of all thought of facial or other appearances as factors in determining friendship we feel those hearts which are humble human channels and the pure heart of the divine light of friendship. The greatest art of making friends is to behave divinely yourself. To feel for someone with no sense of what you can gain, with the true friendship of unconditional love, with no demand, with only the basis of freedom and equality, unselfishness and unconditional love, to know that which is lasting. To say, Let there be truth between us forever. You see that everyone is the Fathers child, and the love you feel for all beings never dies, until you realize, in the love of friends, the divine love of God. I am so grateful for each friend within my life and for you.

When I got divorced I had a beautiful five bedroom home. I was in so much grief that I could not bear to be in my home.   My friends Andrea and Scott allowed me to live with them. They have two lovely girls and they allowed me to live downstairs. I was grateful beyond words. Every living person on this earth should have friends such as this.
I had lived in a state of dysfunction for so long. However, I had never stopped seeking for answers. Codependency is such an insidious thing we have to be conscious always that our aim is to love our self. Yes, we need support but despite my intense grief  I remained conscious that I needed to get back on my feet and make a life for myself.

I was a mess emotionally but I knew that I could organize the physical things in my life. I would consciously take the greens and the bitter herbs, and lots of water and juice and great food.
I planned to go regularly into the park to lie on the grass and rest by the trees. I began meditating more. Breathing deeply.
I did my best to put into practice all the things I had learned but my biggest challenge was my thoughts. After living so long feeling worthless I knew that I had to turn my life around. I had overcome so many things. I determined to overcome this. With good friends and love I knew I could do anything.
I looked forward to this time I’m in now – being of service to others. My heart was very full of gratitude to my friends and I remain grateful.

Friends are a very important component that is essential for healthy living.
In this day and age no one needs to be alone. But they are. Just as we use processed food instead of the real food that grows from the earth and trees we create online friends and mechanical hugs. As cute and sometimes helpful that this might be we need each other.
There are many groups we can attend. Meet Up groups are groups that you can attend that has almost every subject under the sun. You can meet with others of like interest and find new friends.
This is what Wikipedia says about Meet Up:
Meetup is an online social networking portal that facilitates offline group meetings in various localities around the world. Meetup allows members to find and join groups unified by a common interest, such as politics, books, games, movies, health, pets, careers or hobbies. Users enter their postal code or their city and the topic they want to meet about, and the website helps them arrange a place and time to meet. Topic listings are also available for users who only enter a location. Meetup receives revenue by charging fees to administrators of groups, currently at $12 to $19 per month depending on the payment plan.

If Meetup seems a bit too daunting then I suggest you go to your local pet shelter and walk the dogs there or cuddle some kittens.   I do.    I go down to ‘Best Friends’ animal shelter and I take a few minutes to snuggle those kitties.

Of course there there is a lot of volunteer work that you can do but I want you to also be taking care of you.  Did you read about the sushi roll I spoke of in one of the other articles?   If you just feel at the moment that you want to be alone then be sure to have a soft warm blanket, food and drink you love and a great movie.    Once you have looked after yourself and watched a few great movies create your support.  Everything you do is up to you.  And honestly?    That’s what you want because when you are in charge you have power.  Life is so beautiful and so are you.   You can do it.    I believe in you.  Let me know how you do.

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